Thursday, June 2, 2011

Twice in one day?

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Very often when I'm writing here, I want so badly to say "tell me more about yourself..." but I do realize that's not exactly how this works.  Rather, this is almost like my diary... except that it is public!  Hmmmm...  So you will only get to know as much about me as I choose to reveal.  I'm pretty straight-forward -- so you will probably learn a lot more about me than you would ever want to know!  But then it's always your choice whether you come back to read more or not.  In this blog, I thought I'd tell you a little bit more about myself... just some little tidbits...

You know that I'm a Mom with three grown children, but maybe you don't know that I was divorced when my youngest was very young.  It wasn't until she was 6 that I got remarried (the other two were 8 & 9).  My kids are very close in age (21 mos apart, and 17 mos apart) and I have always loved that closeness in their ages.  They've just always been so close to one another.  I'd never choose to do anything differently with any of it!  Even though there were some very tough and trying days, there were more unbelievably awesome times.  They challenged me to be the best mom I could be - and I did my best to teach my kids independence, honestly, integrity and responsibility, among other things.

My favorite flowers are Daisies.  I love almost all flowers - they are so beautiful, and I love the smell of them; how pretty they are with their daintiness.  Yet simple white w/yellow Daisies are the ones that make me stop every time.

My favorite color is purple.  Picking a favorite color is truly difficult, because I love colors so much!  But I would have to say that if I had to narrow it down to just one, it would have to be purple.  Now the ironic thing here is that purple is probably the least color found in my closet!  Go figure!

I'm not conventional.  While I'm old-fashioned in many things: I believe boys should call girls, I believe in chivalry (and also that it's very lost!), I believe in personal responsibility - and I'm definitely not into teaching dependency.  I believe very much in absolute truth and that there is a difference in right and wrong.  But I'm not conventional.  Elaborate?  Well, I don't dress like the crowd, don't have a need to be like everyone else.  Sure, I like to dress along with the style - but I like to wear what makes me feel good and comfortable with myself.  Same with hairstyles - I like my hair the way I like it.  I don't just like something because it's odd or different, but I do tend to move towards things that are not just like what everyone else has.  Also, while I believe many things are black or white (in right and wrong) I also believe there are a lot of gray areas where we are to choose what is best for ourselves.   And many people mix those things up with absolute truth, when they are actually different altogether.

I LOVE to go to the movies by myself.  Oh how I love this!!  Years ago, when my kids were all very young and I was single (divorced, rather), I had been sick and in the hospital for surgery, and had to be out of work for a few weeks.  Well, when I started feeling better and stronger (but was still out on leave from work) I had free time while the kids were in school/daycare.  So I went to see a movie by myself one day.  It seemed like it was going to be the worst thing I'd ever done - I mean, WHO goes to the movie by themselves other than some loser?  But it was awesome!  And ever since then, I have loved to go whenever I get a chance. 

My Grandmother was the closest person to me for most of my life.  I am very close to my mother, and love her dearly.  I have had friends throughout life who are very close to me.  But the on person who I always felt closest to, and most connected with, was my Grandmother.  She was killed in a car accident a few years ago, and nothing could have devastated me more.  And honestly, life has never felt the same since she's not in it.  No question, when I get to heaven, I hope she's the first person I see.

I seem to pick up other accents when I'm around them.  It's really rather embarrassing.  I'm from NC - and definitely a Southerner.  Years ago I was fortunate enough to have some very good friends from Germany - and their accent was, of course, very heavy. The husband would often laugh and say I had the cutest Southern drawl with a German accent.  I'm especially careful when I'm around people who have an accent - trying to make sure that I don't pick it up and start speaking like them.

I've had my heart broken more times than I can count.  When I was a teenager I was engaged to a boy I was with for over 2 years.  I had been in love with him since I was 10-yrs-old.  Just a few weeks before our wedding was to happen (Yes - that close to time everything has pretty much been done, sent, ordered, etc.) he comes up and says he wants to postpone the wedding!  Not cancel or break up - just postpone it for a couple of years.  It broke my heart!  But what really hurt was several weeks down the road when I found out that his parents had bought him a truck to postpone our wedding until we were older.  Now don't think I don't look back at this point and understand exactly where they were coming from - we were really mere kids, and they were looking out for their son.  It was that they didn't have more respect for me - and that he didn't have the respect for me to be honest about all of it.  Wow - I broke up with that boy, and married someone else shortly after (yes, I would guess it did have something to do with rebound) -- I look back and can't help but to laugh that I broke up with him for being dishonest with me!! -- I had so much to learn, huh?!  Anyway... I am now thankful for it all -- because without things working the way they did, I would not have my three wonderful and beautiful children... and I cannot imagine life any differently than it has been with them!!

Ok....I think I've shared plenty for today... and eventually I'm hoping someone decides to share back with me!  I have no idea who is possibly reading this blog... but I'm glad you come back to read more.